Hindsight’s 2019, and on to 2020. Boy am I glad to have 2019 in hindsight, cause it really belongs there with the exception of my new depression treatment. A lot of stupid stuff went on in 2019, and there was a lot out of my control, but also a few things I could have controlled a little better. Like I could have used better coping skills with this mad, mad world, which I’m about to address.
Last year I started watching some No-Buy videos on Youtube and reading some articles on Google. A No-Buy month, year, etc. is just what it sounds like – you don’t buy stuff for a certain amount of time. I am very aware that there are people who go on these no buy larks out of pure necessity, and I have been there myself. But most people have at least some disposable income (or take it from another category like coffee for clothing) even if they don’t have money for much else, and that’s what I’m talking about here.
At the current time, only my husband works outside of the home. I was worried for quite a while how we would make it, but ironically with our lovely system, so much was taken out of my check before by the government which then said we had to pay more taxes because we made more money (including the money they were taking out, not what we were taking home) so – it hasn’t made as much of a difference as I thought it would. In some ways, such as Thing One’s college tuition, it actually saved us money because now they consider us as poor as we were back when I worked, and the grants combined with scholarships for her grades paid for both her first and what looks like her second semester’s tuition. And we did that without Bernie paying for college, though he is certainly still welcome to do it.
Many of the people whose No Buy reports interested me had way too much makeup. There’s even an entire Reddit about this. I don’t have a problem with makeup. I don’t wear it that often now that I’m not working (and I stopped a while before then even). The only time I’ve bought much makeup was when they had a special Disney line of it. Which leads to the problem – Disney. I collect Disney dolls, especially limited edition ones which are, of course, more expensive. My mother collected dolls when I was younger, but I got onto the Disney kick while I was working in order to reward myself. My Things also have their share of dolls, as you know if you’ve read my blog very long and seen us create strange posts with them.
I am not ashamed of my dolls; I enjoy them. Everyone has something they collect, whether it’s car parts (my husband), or makeup, or baseball cards, or cell phones (you don’t need a brand new 1,000 dollar Apple phone each year sorry), etc. etc. I often collect when the thing represents something that matters to me, because I like to see, hear, and touch. I’m horrible at museums. Anyway, Disney movies matter since they all have messages (besides make me more money). I also got into collecting Game of Thrones last year since I really enjoyed the story of Daenerys – at least until that last season but moving on. I got into buying those figures too, and then into the world of Funko Pops.
Be afraid. There’s one of them for everyone, I don’t care who you are.
Since recently paying off our car, our only debt is our mortgage and medical bills. So I’m not using credit cards (we don’t own one) to finance my problem. I have dipped into our savings, though, which is not very big and consists mostly of what we got from our last tax return. We’ve been fortunate in that people like our church and family have aided with some of the bigger bills such as the dental one (I hate teeth). I’ve found that buying dolls and collectibles often comes up when I’m stressed, or sad, and gives me that brief rush – only to make me feel bad later. You see I have plenty of dolls at this point. I even sold some last year, and I intend on selling more collectibles this year.
But I’m hoping to first stop buying so many of the fancy Disney dolls. One thing that has helped me is to learn more about the psychology of shopping. It’s pretty creepy what advertisers do to lure you in, and we think we’re too smart for it, but fall for it every time. I’ve followed a youtuber who has some interesting videos, and read some books as well. I would like to spend this year enjoying what I have, decluttering my house of what I don’t, and just finding healthier habits than online shopping (which is how I buy most things I don’t need.). With what I save, I hope to put money in savings, pay off bills, and buy other things that would be nice like frames for art (the Things are good artists). My walls are rather bare and depressing at the moment.
So I’ve made some plans for the next year.
Health: Be healthier overall: keep up with mental health care and other doctor appointments (like asthma etc), more exercise, actual meal plans, better self care, and losing some weight.
Financial: Less spending on dolls and collectibles, fountain drinks, and meals out. More saving, paying off bills, improving my environment, and my self confidence (more flattering clothes, learning new stuff).
Environment: Clear out clutter, clean (and learn more about how to clean properly)
Listing them as somewhat vague yearly resolutions freaked me out, so I will divide them into months.
Month One: January
Health: 1. Continue my mental health treatment (post on that coming up) 2.Walk more – I need a specific number of steps each day. I’m still recovering from first a sinus infection, and then the antibiotics that made me sicker. But I did spend some Christmas money on a new tracker (gadgets!) which is coming on Friday. Exercise is supposed to be good for body and mind, or so they say. I’ll find out. 4. Write more. Writing is fun, and I like communicating with you guys.
Financial: 1.No spending on dolls and collectibles. 2. Fewer fountain drinks: I’ve mostly drinking the little 8 oz cans of cola rather than getting the drinks from the drive-through. This goes with health too, come to think of it. 3. Get a bill paying system together.
Environment: Work on my bedroom the most, especially my desk and bedside table drawers. Cleaning out my desk will help give me a place for keeping track of bills.
I’m not sure how this is going to work. I’ve already experienced the setback of being sick, so at least I’m prepared for that. As the year progresses, hopefully I can keep up with my goals. One thing that helps is not depriving yourself, which is why I’m not cutting out all pleasures (still have coke for instance). It also helps to have someone to keep you accountable, so I have a couple of friends, my Things, and now you guys.
Do any of you have resolutions or goals for this year?
Here is yet another post with my name in it. They’re like children’s books, only not. This post is about Ye Olde New Years Resolutions. I did one of these posts last year, and managed to accomplish everything on the list! Of course the list included things like breathing, eating, and going potty, so admittedly it was not the biggest challenge, considering I am not handicapped. Well, not physically anyway.
But this year I thought I’d do a little research into resolutions. And by a little, I mean a very little. I googled “new years resolutions” and picked the first thing. I found an article on About.com that listed the top ten New Year’s resolutions. This guy is really fond of Pittsburgh. He manages to work local attractions into every single item on the list. That’d be fascinating if I lived anywhere near Pittsburgh. Maybe. Anyway, here they are:
1. Spend More Time with Family and Friends
Wait, what? I just got through Christmas with these people. Like I want to spend anymore time with them? These are the guys that make me actually want to go back to work. Maybe I’ll tell them to meet me at popular Pittsburgh places for family fun.
2. Fit in Fitness
According to this article, “regular fitness has been associated with more health benefits than anything else known to man”. He doesn’t list a source for this. I’m suspicious. Sure, exercise sounds fun, if you’re insane. But there’s got to be an easier way to achieve this fitness thing. Like one of those fat magnets. I’m getting one of those, although I’ll be sure to check out Pittsburgh area charity walks, runs, and rides. The ride one sounds pretty good, provided I am riding in a car.
3. Tame the Bulge
So, like 66 percent of Americans are overweight or obese (hence bulge, get it?) I admit I could stand to lose some pounds. The article says the two most important factors in losing weight are setting reasonable goals and staying focused. I thought it was not eating so many Cheetos and exercising till I fall over. I guess I could read these Pittsburgh weight loss help ideas but oh, hey, Honey Boo-Boo is on!
4. Quit Smoking
This is a good one because I don’t smoke. I am rather annoyed when other people do it around me because of this thing called asthma that can make it hard to breathe even clean air. I get chronic bronchitis and recently recovered from pneumonia, the lung disease from hell, so oddly enough, I’m not fond of breathing in second-hand poison. If I’m dying of lung disease, I’d rather it be from my own stupid habits, not yours. So stop it, preferably by going to quit smoking classes in the greater Pittsburgh area.
5. Enjoy Life More
I don’t know about you, but those earlier resolutions don’t seem to fit with this one. If you are spending all your time exercising, dieting, and hanging around with your family while wearing nicotine patches, I’m guessing you aren’t enjoying life all that much. You know what would help with that? A chocolate cake with a lit cigarette candle. Wait, no, sorry. My bad. Find some things to do in Pittsburgh instead.
6. Quit Drinking
If you weren’t having enough fun with your diet, exercise, family-time, non-smoking, enjoyable life, here’s another guilt trip for you. You drink too much. This is another thing I don’t have a problem with, as alcohol is way too expensive and I am way too cheap. Also, it doesn’t rot out my teeth in quite the same way as my Dr. Pepper addiction does. But it’s a good idea not to drink so much, because you really can’t trust your friends not to do stupid stuff with your drunk self. At least I couldn’t. Instead, find alcohol recovery and support. In Pittsburgh. Of course.
7. Get Out of Debt
Is there some reason that none of these resolutions sounds like fun? What do these people have against fun? Even our government can’t get out of debt. They go around charging everything and they never have to show receipts. No fair, I say. Yet money woes are stressful, so it’d be best not to drink, smoke, sit, eat, be alone, or spend money. Gosh I can’t wait to put this plan in action, you guys! Let’s start the party by finding a financial planner in Pittsburgh!
8. Learn Something New
Crap, now I’m supposed to learn something? That sucks. I refuse to learn anything next year. My recaps of the 50 Shades books should help with this. Nevermind that I’m working in a library. Not gonna learn a thing. But if you want to learn, you can always find lifelong learning in Pittsburgh! Step one: figure out where the hell Pittsburgh is.
9. Help Others
Yet another downer on the list. Volunteerism? I didn’t even know that was a word. Oh, and guess where they think you should volunteer. A library. Cause like, all you have to do is read, amIright? That sounds EASY. Try it. I dare you. Volunteering is like a job, only without the benefit of pay. Which is sort of what every employer wants from you. Don’t give in to their ploys! It also mentions donating your stuff. There’s lots of crap I could donate, like single socks. But whatever you do, don’t donate National Geographic magazines to your library. We don’t need them. We literally have buckets of those stupid things, and overnight they breed. Find some volunteer opportunities in Pittsburgh instead. Be sure and bother their librarians.
10. Get organized.
Organized? Hahaha. I can’t even organize this list. Let’s see, I’m not supposed to drink, smoke, or eat; but I should spend time with family exercising and volunteering by running around the library while I learn new stuff from those book thingies. Or was that the other way around? So confusing. But hey, there’s a lady in Pittsburgh named Patty Kreamer (no really) who offers an e course on organizing. That should help, if I can quit saying “kreamer” over and over in my head.
So there you have it. Top ten resolutions for 2013. Do you have any resolutions this year? Do you live in Pittsburgh? Let me know.