Could Don Trump Jr. cure my Depression?

I was feeling a lot better, but then I started feeling not as good.  I’m not sure why.  It might have been going back to work and trying to get used to regular life again.  Or maybe that’s just part of treatment.  At any rate, I am going back for another extra treatment today.  Hopefully that will help.

There’s one other thing that might help, though.  I’m not sure if you’ve watched the news (or the comedy shows that do as good a job only more amusing) but it seems little Donny is a moron.  Remember how Hillary Clinton lost the election mostly because of her stupid emails?  Yeah?  Well, guess what?!  She’s not the only one with dumb emails.  It seems Don Jr met with a Russian lawyer who gave him confidential info on Hillary which they then used to influence the 2016 election.  We’ve been suspecting there was collusion between the Trumps and the Russians for a while, but no one thought that a Trump would actually flat out give written proof of it.   I told my thirteen-year-old about this and she frowned and asked, “Isn’t that treason?”  Yes, Thing Two, yes it is, good job.  Now if only adults on Fox News would figure it out, it’d be great.  Till then, we can watch them squirm.

Hey, Donnie, cleanin’ out a space for you in my can.

Now I have clips from Stephen Colbert of the Late Show and Trever Noah of the Daily Show.  Sure I could have found a bunch of official news clips, but you can do that.  This is much less boring.  Anyway, my point here is that this has the potential to cheer me up quite a bit.  I know it did last night when Thing One and I were watching and laughing so hard we nearly fell out of our chairs.  Of course, I could be wrong.  They are rich jerks and often they tend to get away with anything but – if nothing else they are not going to shake this for a while.  It should keep them busy.  Too busy – I hope – to keep working on that healthcare bill that will leave 23 million more uninsured.  Yes, Fox News is trying to defend the Trumps and sounding almost as ridiculous as Don Jr. did when he tweeted out the entire email chain containing information that directly links him to the scandal.  I did you the favor of linking clips from the Daily Show and the Late Show right here!

And not to forget Stephen’s report – view them both to get all the goodies, if you haven’t already . . .

Weee!  Who says you can’t have Christmas in July?  Stayed tuned.

Your raving reporter,

Alice

R-E-S-P-E-C-T

Come baaaaaaaaaack!

I was reading this article about President Obama taking a selfie with an Alaskan woman and her baby.  It was super weird, see, cause he held this baby, took the picture, and never once told either her mother or her that they were too fat or had bad plastic surgery jobs.  And all I could think was of how sweet it was and how jealous I was of that baby.

That might have come out wrong.  Anyway, while I was reading my husband walked by and said, “Reading about Obama?”  I said yes and that I was sad that some people called him a “monkey” online.  He said, “I know you and the girls make fun of Trump.  But he should be given respect as the president.”  This surprised me, as he rarely talks about politics.  I said, “I wouldn’t be racist about him.”  Which is true – that is one thing I wouldn’t do.  Even orange people should have rights.

Now my husband is a good man.  If I’d known he was going to end up voting Republican, I highly doubt we’d have gotten past the second date.  He said he wasn’t into politics when I asked him about his.  My translation: I can convert him.  Young single people – don’t ever think this.  He votes Republican primarily because of gun rights.  He was raised in the country, where he was taught to respect guns and use them properly.  So he thinks other people do.  I don’t try to argue about this with him anymore.  In fact, we usually do not discuss politics with each other.  This is a good thing because we balance each others’ strengths quite well.  With politics he doesn’t care and I care way too much.  But his statement got me thinking.

Think like the POTUS!

Do we need to have respect for the president because of his office alone?  When Obama was president, I can remember being deeply bothered that people said such horrible things about him.  My Thing One was just eight when he was elected the first time, and it bothered her that people did not show respect for the president since she was taught to respect her elders.  I felt the same way.  Even if they didn’t care for his positions on issues, there was no reason to be so nasty about him as a person.  Then came Trump.

I tried to have basic respect for him at first, honestly I did.  But it wasn’t long, definitely by the time he somehow, inexplicably, became the Republican nominee for POTUS that I lost even a semblance of respect.  Was I biased about Obama?  Well, yes, of course I was.  I am a very passionate Democrat.  I stand with the views of that party.  But that wasn’t the only reason I liked Obama.  He also, in my opinion, earned respect.  He wasn’t perfect, no one is, but he made an effort.  You looked at him and you saw a decent human being.  At least I did.  I never could understand why some people had so much hatred for him.  The Democrat before him, Clinton, was a successful president, even if he had issues with keeping a basic item of clothing on around interns.  Obama, as far as anyone knows, had no issues with this.  I think it was the whole “Michelle was awesome and he was a good guy” bit.  But girl had muscle and could probably bench press him, so ultimately it was in his best interest.

The episode where Michelle put Elmo in a headlock was the best one EVER.

Moving onto Donald Trump.  What can I say?  I have not cared for the last few Republican presidents, especially George W. Bush, for very good reasons.  Yes, I have bias toward my party of choice.  I believe the government should take care of ALL people, not just the wealthy.  Everyone should have healthcare.  Everyone should be able to make choices about their own lives.  And so on.  Still, I would never have advocated for wild hyenas to chase after either Bush, or Reagan, or any of the other Republicans before them.  But Trump?  Oh, yes, yes I would.

I don’t dislike him.  I loathe him.  And I have reasons, so many reasons, all of which can be backed up with written, audio, or video proof.  Almost every time he opens his mouth, something hateful, offensive, sexist, racist, or just idiotic comes out. Or any time he types on a keyboard, which he does way too often for any office holder.  We need a new law barring people holding office from Twitter.  Unless you are a under 18 years old you really do not need to be spending that much time on a form of social media that spits out idiocy 140 characters at a time.  Good grief, my children do not spend that much time on Twitter.  They are smarter and have more important things to do with their time.

Even I write more intelligent tweets.

I do expect my kids to show basic respect for authority, even if they don’t like them.  But this is unlike anything I have ever experienced when it comes to authority.  George W. Bush was not the brightest light on the porch, but he did know how to listen to his advisors.  Trump is so arrogant he won’t even listen to his own staff.  And he needs to, because he knows nothing about his job.  You should understand your job and if you don’t, you darn sure better lean on someone who does get it.  This is true at a KFC, and it is certainly true in the highest office in the U.S.A.  Have your own views on the issues, views I detest, but at least do some basic things like:

A: Live in the White House – full time – with your wife.  Or

B: Prepare for meetings with presidents of other countries, especially if those presidents are extremely dangerous. Or

C: If you can’t say something nice, shut up.

Crazy ideas, I know, but come on!  It’s not just me, some crazy “libtard” as Internet Trump supporters like to say.  Other world leaders dislike him too.  Watch the Chancellor of Germany Angela Merkel roll her eyes and imagine getting to spend the day sandwiched between Putin and Trump.

Or check out the former president of Mexico, Vicente Fox.

He is now one of my new heroes.

Unlike my president.  Yes, though I hate it, he is the president, but he is a lousy president and a pretty lousy human being.  He could change, but I highly doubt he will.  As Vicente says, he would be much happier back in his old life as jerk CEO.  There’s no pressure there, and best of all, no tempting buttons to push.  There was a time, back when he was first elected, when I thought people were going overboard with worry.  Surely he wasn’t going to be that bad.

I was wrong.  So wrong.  There are scary things happening out there.  Other countries with weapons that could destroy what is left of the promise of this great nation.  The United States and her people deserve more than this.  The world, of which the United States is one of the wealthiest, most influential nations, deserves more than this.

It deserves respect.

~Alice

Happy Birthday, Amuurica

Today is the day Americans, or North Americans anyway, celebrate independence from England.  I’ve said this before, but I don’t know if there’s ever been a year to my recollection when it’s been more true.  England has to be celebrating independence from us.

There goes the country . . .

Still, all I had to do was look at a newspaper yesterday to see that we still have reasons to celebrate, though we’ve done our best to bury them lately.  For one thing, we aren’t embroiled in a civil war.  No army has beaten down our houses, murdered us, and forced our children to fight.  That is real and happening in the Sudan right now.  I’m not just talking about teenagers here, but little children.

But there is no time for the Sudan – Trump tweeted again!  And it was a stinker, whew.  The latest was a video of him superimposed over a wrestler.  Because we all know he’s in shape.  And he’s beating the crap out of another wrestler, labeled CNN (fake news!)  Goody!  Nothing like literally showing violence toward the news media just days before we celebrate the fact that we have free press in this country.  We also have democratic elections with the exception of the Russian hacking that is becoming more apparent by the day, and the gerrymandering that politicians, especially Republican ones, use to their advantage.

Here’s a clip not just of the juvenile tweet (I’m so happy he has this kind of time on his hands to make videos like this) but also of the reaction of one of his advisors.  Yes, he applies suction fast enough, but as the video points out, he can’t hide his immediate reaction which is priceless.  Just imagine what the other countries think of us now!  By the way guys, I am not with him!

Our mighty president has finally gone far enough that even the Republicans, who up till now have been pretty spineless about disciplining him, have spoken up.  Trumpy again insulted a woman based on appearance, saying Mika Brzezinski, co-host of Morning Joe, was bleeding from plastic surgery.  She hasn’t had plastic surgery, but even if she had, who the hell says that?  I mean, besides someone used to bullying everyone around him to get his way?  Certainly not a president.  Several high ranking government officials from both parties have said essentially “For God’s sake, you’re killing us here, please grow up.”

The worst thing is that with Trump being such an imbecile, people are distracted from some very serious issues today, including healthcare.  Obama helped put the idea that healthcare is a RIGHT into peoples’ heads, as it should be.  Those people murdered in the Sudan?  That was during war.  Throwing people off of health insurance is effectively murder as well.  Poor children can die without medical care.  They can lose their parents or grandparents young.  And everyone needs health insurance because you never know when you could get hit with something out of the blue.  Cancer, Heart Disease, and Mental Illness, all of which require costly treatment, don’t send you warning letters years ahead of time.  And even if you are always healthy, you still need to pay into health insurance because that is how they pay for the truly sick people.  Just like how you pay into Social Security because elderly people who raised you need care now.  You might have heard it before – it’s called being a Christian, or simply a decent human being.

Food and medical care? But that baby’s poor! Get a job, Jesus!

My title isn’t an accidental typo.  I’m spelling phonetically, like the man in the commercial for red, white and blue pancakes who claims in a dramatic slur that they taste like “Amuuurica.” Credits to the nostalgia critic for finding this gem.  I am crying tears of patriotism.

I’m not sure what America tastes like, but these days it might have a slightly bitter taste.  Best drown it down with some beer.  The right kind of beer of course.

“Nothing says ‘America’ like an ice-cold can of mass-produced beer.” – USA Today

Drink while you try to figure out what the heck Google means with their 4th of July salute.

Are the animals trying to declare their independence from us too, or what?  Either way, have a good holiday even if you don’t celebrate.  My house celebrated Canada Day because it sounds nice up there, except for the cold.  We could cuddle with your Prime Minister.  Oh, wait, that’s not very patriotic . . . Happy 4th!

~Alice

 

 

Which road?

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
~Robert Frost

When you’re out of commission as long as I’ve been, things tend to pile up.  All those little things you didn’t feel like doing before are now in front of you.  This is true for me even though I have had people help me so much.  For instance, the church went in to help fix our air conditioner. While they were there, they figured, holy crap these people can’t find their floor – or their cabinets – or likely their sanity. So they cleaned also.

If you know someone who is ill either mentally, physically, or both, and you’re wondering what to do – that’s it.  Clean.  If they are at all open to the idea, it is a huge help to them, and they likely aren’t going to ask for it because it’s embarrassing.  So that and cooking – both great ideas. They might even go to your church if you do it.

Anyway, in spite of this, I still find myself overwhelmed by the amount of stuff that I’ve gotten behind on.  Since we had so many clothes, enough to make a new carpet and then some, they bagged many of them up in leaf bags for us to sort through ourselves.  Which we will . . . eventually.  But right now, the idea of even starting this project makes me itch.

Itch like my head, because now was a perfect time to come up with the little buggers.  Sometimes I even wonder if I’m really better, but my husband assures me I am.  I want to go out again, I want to do things again, I smile again.  The problem is that there is so much left over from when I could do squat that I don’t even know where to begin.  I was told I could skip my Friday treatment.  So I did, and I went back on Thursday after getting home on Wednesday.  I can’t even drive yet, but I’m back at work.

Or I was, until Friday around 10 AM when I had to go home.  I just couldn’t figure out what to do with myself. Not like there weren’t things to do, but there were too many things both at work and at home that I was thinking about, and I had no idea how to prioritize them.  Of course I know now that the head itching, which was distracting itself, was not psychological for once.  So I can treat that.  But there isn’t a shampoo for prioritizing.

I just can’t figure out how so much got away from me.  I’ve been in treatment for 3.5 weeks, but even before the ECT, I wasn’t getting anything done because of the depression.  Its much easier to say “Yes I should do laundry, but that bed looks comfy” etc., etc.  So now I have so many decisions to make that at times I will skip an official meal because I would have to decide what I was going to eat.  Overwhelmation is taking its toll.

June is a big month.  My Things turned 13 and 17 – yes, you heard right.  I can believe 13 for Thing Two – she’s been thirteen for the last three years at least.  But 17 for Thing One?  You realize how old that makes me, right?  If you know me on Facebook, you already know – I turned 41 three days ago.  I can’t figure out how so much has happened.  Turns out that the world goes on even when you don’t.

In some ways, I needed this depression to understand how much things meant to me.  Things like, well, my things – my children and the other people who care for me.  I feel I’ve gotten much closer to several people through this, including my parents.  They love me more than I realized, and have even told me so.  I’ve seen how good so many people can be, and I’ve been inspired to be that way myself.

But where to begin?  I don’t know.  When you are driving to a big city 6 hours away on Sunday, then driving home Friday afternoon, only to repeat all of this again the following Sunday, your regular life takes a back seat.  Normal everyday things like getting housework done or even remembering to fill my pills regularly, take a back seat.  There just isn’t any time.  And I cannot begin to describe the homesickness.  A hotel away from it all sounds nice, but only for a certain amount of time.  You start to miss your own town, your own house, your own bed, your children, on certain weeks your husband, and your old routine.  And you want to smack the ceiling with a stick to shut up those people upstairs.

I haven’t been able to drive since beginning treatment.  While I was in Dallas, driving was scary anyway, and on weeks with my father you could forget going anywhere.  He’s 75 and much more nervous than he used to be on the road.  I’ve always been nervous, so there’s not a lot of change there.  Yet that meant more isolation on days I was with him.  I could go out with my husband at least, but that traffic was still unreal.  I don’t know how people live like that on a normal basis.  No wonder so many in Dallas are getting ECT.

Driving represents a certain amount of freedom for me, and I never realized how I took it, like so many things, for granted.  Or how much I used the word “thing” to describe everything. Sorry about that.  I don’t have great memory loss, but I do get flustered easily.  So here I am, discovering how much I’ve missed, and wanting for once to catch up, but getting confused easily and wanting to go hide under my covers at times.  Getting a few zaps doesn’t fix things right away.  Recovery takes more time, and as usual, I have no patience.  Life doesn’t have much patience for you either.  Get on the train or get off, it seems.

I don’t know if I’m ready for work, or even if this is the job I should stay with forever.  I like my coworkers, especially my immediate boss.  I get decent pay and really good insurance and retirement.  It involves History and English, which are two subjects I’m good at.  I’m proud of my job, and worked hard to get it.  My daughter will be in college in a couple of years, and it would be nice to be around there.  However, it doesn’t have an exact job description, which sometimes leaves you floundering around, wondering what you’re supposed to be doing exactly.  I feel guilty when I’m not working hard enough, which seems to be most of the time.  Not only that, I have a hard time concentrating on job tasks I often find boring when so many other tasks need doing elsewhere.  That work / life balance idea is rather laughable.  Yet I’m not sure what else to do.  If I quit, then I need another job, but what?  I’m not sure I could bring myself to decide.  I can’t even figure out what clothes to keep.

So keep in mind how I really do want to get it in gear, which means catching up on both my own blog and the blogs of others. This used to be a big part of my life, and I think it would help me to make it so again.  But I am struggling right now to get my life put back together, to figure out what is most important and what should be first.  I’m not sure how to do that.  Old Bob Frost said “Two roads diverged in a wood, and I, I took the one less traveled by.  And that has made all the difference.”

I like that poem, but I have a question.  Which road is less traveled by, and how do you figure that out?

 

Bugs!

I have never liked bugs.  I really don’t see their purpose.  If it’s to feed something, then maybe we can just do without whatever it feeds.  I’m not super into birds – they’re annoying also.  But I’ll tell you what I really don’t like.  More than your regular crawly bugs, stinging bugs, biting bugs, or even flying stinging crawly biting bugs . . . it’s bugs that LIVE on you.  That’s right.  Lice.

Hi, everybody!!!

I have two beautiful daughters, as most of you know.  I affectionately call them Things.  Well guess what the Things brought in?  That’s right.  Bugs.  The first time I somehow escaped them.  But not this time.  This time I thought my head just itched from the ECT treatments but noooo.  It had to come from children.  I knew there was some reason besides potty training and the facts of life that having girls would get me.  Here it is.

My husband just gets a buzz cut.  This doesn’t work so well for me.  Instead I get to shampoo with pesticides and then comb the things – the bug things – out bit by bit.  Oh sure, I could go with an alternative treatment like Mayo but frankly I do not want both bugs and salad dressing in my hair.  I want something that makes them GONE, like yesterday, and the deadlier the better to me!  If there were some sort of smoke bomb you could drop on planet Earth that killed every single one of them at once, I would be for that.  Lice genocide.  Works for me.

Hey what’s that smoke – Hide yo wives, hide yo kids!

I got these suckers once before, when I was in elementary school.  It sucked then too, only it was just as bad for my mother.  I got my long beautiful hair cut, and then I got them shampooed out, and then combed out.  For probably 27 hours or so.  I’m pretty sure my mom would go for lice genocide too, since she’s the one that found them in her granchildrens’ hair while I was away getting my brain zapped.  Lucky her!

So now I wait for my husband to return with “the stuff” and help me get this stuff out.  If only I could save the comb and donate it to the Donald.  Bugs would go nicely with that orange mop, and who wouldn’t want to see him dance?  Be dears and send nice deadly thoughts in my direction.  I hope to hear the creatures screaming by this afternoon.

On the other hand, maybe he has them already.

~Alice

ECT: Day One

I wrote down some notes in a notebook on my first morning of ECT, since I figured I would not remember it later.  Though I just completed my 11th day of ECT today, I’ll go back to my notes on the very first day.

4:45 A.M. June 5th

Notes: Hey Alice, you remember these?  You wrote them!  No, really.  Weirdly you have not had as many freakout meltdowns the last couple of days.  I predict spaz out by 8 AM, but who knows?  You probably don’t!  My gosh, you are twisted, Alice.

Scared?  Yeah but it’s been such a long journey.  Like Han Solo said in reply to notice of his “Execution at dawn.”  “Oh good – I hate long waits.”  Been trying to remember the song “Memory”.  From a show about cats.  I have this.  “Mem-ory!  La la la la la la la laaaaaa!”

Great start, Alice.

In writing notes for another post I got nervous.  Paying for a seizure?  This sounds like a colossally bad idea.  What if I get pudding brains later?  I am vain about me brain.

Forgot to write down where the procedure will be done for sure.  Good one!

5:65 er 5:16 now.  O.K. I am scared.  Also hungry.  No food till after.

But – scared.

Road to Dallas:

You might be wondering what Dallas is like.  The city is big, and full of traffic, and six hours from my home town.  They made an entire prime time soap about it!

The real Dallas is exactly like the show.  My shrink was J.R.

Just kidding.  The shrink was actually nice.  All of them were nice from the psychiatrists to the nurses to the guys that wheeled me out when the treatment was over.  They don’t want you to fall on your face when you wake up, so you get taken out by chair.  You will be fairly out of it, but you won’t forget your name or birthday or the awful stuff that happened to you in first grade, so nice try.  They will ask you who you are before they even put you under.  Heck they even ask each other what they’re doing first, just to make sure.  “What procedure is this?  Oh, yeah. Right lateral ECT.”

They do care if you keep your memory or not.  I know because I got mine tested over and over, which was difficult since my memory kind of sucked to begin with and now I was purposely shooting up my brain.  Each time I came for another treatment I got another test.  Remember these three random words while I go on talking about other stuff.  After a while you can try to guess them because it’s often something like a fruit or a piece of furniture or a kind of currency.  It won’t hurt to try any of these things if you’re clueless like I usually am.

When you go into the procedure room, they give you oxygen and put sleep juice and whatever else you can convince them to add into your I.V.  After you’re out, they put goopy gel (back to the 80s!) in your hair to attach the electrode thingys.  The goop itches like Hades and will hang around until you bother to wash it out.  But at least you aren’t biting on a chew toy.  At least not that I remember anyway.  Nor did I wet my pants.  These were concerns of mine.

The first time I woke up I was confused and waiting for them to start the treatment before I realized they’d already done it.  I didn’t feel a difference immediately.  It took a few weeks before I could look back and realize that I was feeling better.  Why was I feeling better?  I have no idea.  But I’m grateful both for the help and for the people who stood by me while I got it.  I found new appreciation for these people in my life.  I can’t promise ECT will help anyone else, but I would certainly encourage them to try it.  Just watch for cars and rattlesnakes if you’re in Dallas.

 

 

Risk, Stigma, and ECT

Last time I talked to you about why I chose to try ECT, or more specifically, my history of depression.  Many people called me brave, and I thank you for your kind words.  This made me consider, though, exactly what bravery is.  Most people think of brave people as those who take great risks.  There are many kinds of risk, but even in cases where a split second decision is required, you will rely on what you know.  You will make an assessment.  Is the risk I’m taking worth the possible costs?

For instance, you might decide you want to go bungee jumping.  What are the risks and what are the benefits?  Everyone’s different, but I’d probably look at it like this.

Risk: You could fall to your death and die.

Benefit: Wee, it’s fun!

I belieeeeeve I can fly!

In this case, I’d decide that no, jumping off a cliff, even with a rope tied around my ankle, is not worth risking my early demise for benefit of an adrenaline rush (I don’t even have to pay for those!). On the other hand, when I made a decision about getting ECT, I looked at the decision this way.

Risk: Very Expensive. Memory loss.  Cognitive problems.  Pudding brains.

Benefit: I might feel like living, and my life become more worthwhile, for myself and those who love me.

In order to make this decision, I did my research.  I can research the crap out of anything, taking hours to find out which shampoo brand is the best, which makes me a great librarian though sometimes an annoying person.  So after my psychiatrist asked his students in front of me what was available to those who didn’t respond to drugs, they said, as one example, ECT. When he asked them what it stood for, they hesitated, and I said “Electroconvulsive Therapy.”  Give me an A.

You might think my psychiatrist is mean asking his students these questions in front of me, but honestly I think he just loves to mess with them. The best way to learn is to do so in a real setting.  I could have refused the students had I wanted to, but it turns out I find their suffering entertaining as well.  Anyway, at first I said, “Yeah, nope”.  I’d heard plenty about ECT, and Sparky had always told me to watch myself around electricity, so this seemed a no-brainer.

My psychiatrist told me what ECT was like now, and how much it had changed from the days of “One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest”.  He bemoaned the fact that there is so much stigma, and that this and politics often dictated whether a variety of treatments are available to patients.  For instance, ECT was once available near my home town, but it was taken away.  The closest hospital that offers ECT now is over a five hour drive from where I live.  “In the end,” he said.  “They take it away, and the patients suffer.”  He said he has seen it work because he’d administered it himself.  “I am convinced you could feel better in as little as two weeks.”

What exactly takes place during ECT?  I won’t know until I’m there, and even then I’ll be asleep most of the time, but I did find this video that shows the procedure.

A little disconcerting?  Slightly.  On the other hand, it’s also a far cry from what they did to Jack Nicholson.  As you can see, the actual shock lasts seconds, and only one part of the body shakes to show there is a seizure.  Oxygen is given, anesthesia, and something to stop the convulsions.  But just look at those people helping with the ECT, holding his hand, smiling gently.  Vultures!

By this point, as I said before, I’d been through years worth of drugs that eventually failed.  Some of them had dangerous side effects, just as dangerous as ECT’s side effects, or worse.  If you get right down to it, everything carries a risk of side effects.  Childbirth is risky, even if you’re young and healthy.  I know, because at 27, I had to wait two weeks for tests to find out if my baby was mentally handicapped.  She turned out healthy, but it did shock me into reality.  None of us is immune to tragedy.

So I researched, and so did my friends.  As I mentioned briefly earlier, I found a little straight forward information, and many, many websites full of warnings and sometimes near hysterical accounts from patients.  I realize that this treatment doesn’t work for everyone, but the success rate is listed at near 80 percent.  Even if that data is wrong, and it’s only 50 percent, or heck, 5 percent, is this something we should deny desperate people?  Chemotherapy kills your body’s cells, both healthy and cancerous, yet it is a common procedure for people with Cancer.  Rarely do I hear of someone cautioning a person “You know Chemo is barbaric.  Don’t do it!!!”  The reason you don’t hear this is because, unfortunately, for now it is one of the few treatments that have been shown to succeed.  It takes a terrible toll on the body, and it doesn’t always work.  But what else should a person do?  Take vitamins?  Smoke kale?  Tell me, what else should they do?

What else should terribly depressed people do?

That is why I don’t presume to tell others what to do with their own bodies.  Screaming that a treatment – whether pills, a medical procedure, or even eating kale (you might choke)- is barbaric, outdated, and cruel could scare people away from the one thing that might help them.  I did find one blog written by Natasha Tracy, advocate for mental health.  She had a terrible time with ECT.  But she fights for it to be available, because she knows that her experience is not what everyone will experience.  What helps you could hurt someone else, or vice versa.  I encourage you to visit her website; it is full of good information.  It is also full of really angry people in the comment section.  But she keeps writing.

I am aware that writing about this could open myself up to a lot of these same angry people.  But so many have helped me over the years, and I want to help someone else.  I want there to be more information about what ECT really is, and how it works.  I want people to find an account that is from a real person, but still factual.  Even if it’s a bad experience for me, I want to demystify this treatment for Depression.  That’s why I decided to write.  I weighed the risk (testing out the waters with a friend), and I made a decision.  Eventually you have to stop researching, and make a choice, just as I did to try ECT.

I have much more to talk about, but I’m running out of space.  I will tell of what the actual process of preparing for ECT entails (hint: you don’t walk right in and get shocked), and how I went about figuring out how I was going to get there in the first place.  The decision was one thing.  The execution of that decision, quite another.

Remember: Everyone is brave in their own way, just by getting up in the morning.

Stay tuned.

~Alice

Why I Am Trying ECT

“What if you get all the way up there and there’s nothing?”
“What if there’s everything?”

– from the movie Tomorrowland

 

Earlier Merry at Knocked Over By a Feather wrote about a friend who is preparing for ECT treatments.  That friend is me.  You may have noticed, if you read my blog much, that I haven’t exactly been posting a lot lately.  I’m sure the lack of informational posts about Trump, boogers, imaginary ponies, etc., have left you in a lurch.  I hope to get back to that at some point, but right now things aren’t going so well.  This is nice speak for “There is no need for Hell; I’m here guys!”

The reason I asked Merry to write about it first was because I was afraid of the responses.  I’ve researched ECT, (electroconvulsive therapy or “shock therapy”), for nearly two months now, and most of what I find are horrifying stories.  Yet ECT is often successful at treating depression, or at least raising you to a point where you can treat your depression.  The minority write the scary stuff, and shout down the ones who have positive experiences.  I’m not saying people do not have bad experiences, but what one finds positive and another finds positive can be very different.  If you are so depressed you can’t function, side effects, even serious ones, can take a back seat to even the possibility of getting well.

I don’t like to talk that much about my illnesses.  Alice is supposed to be funny – to a select group of people anyway.  (Hi, friends!)  Some might say it’s because I use humor as a defense mechanism.   Humor at least makes the awful go down a little easier.  These illnesses are not something to joke about, though, especially not to the new psychiatrist who is in charge of the ECT program.  He seemed to think my joke about the butcher knife was not funny.  Killjoy.

That’s not funny, Alice.

I feel like I should offer you my history, because I did not wake up one day feeling sad and decide to go get my brain shocked.  It doesn’t work that way.  ECT is, in general, a last ditch effort when other treatments have failed.  We have come a long way in mental health treatment just within the last few decades.  Now, thankfully, we have antidepressants that do work for many people.  They might even work for Scientologists, though I fear their problems mostly stem from being jerks.

And that’s another issue.  It’s hard enough to juggle a chronic illness like Depression without dealing with other stress.  Most people have to work.  You’d be amazed at the number of people who have worked for years with the black dog dragging them down.  Don’t tell the cute college students, but work kind of sucks at least part of the time, even if you like your job and your coworkers.  I have been in my job as a library assistant at a university library for over seven years now.  If it were not for the people I work with, especially my direct boss, I would not still be working.  Like far too many people, I would be forced onto disability.  Depression is the second greatest reason for people taking disability now.  Only heart disease has more people.

Depression: We got second place!

Yet even with my decent working conditions, I am struggling to keep afloat.  I already take antidepressants and anti-anxiety medication.  These help me if all conditions are going well, but stress is always present, and it doesn’t take much for my cup to runneth over.  When you are depressed, everything becomes difficult.  Bit by bit I’ve watched as I’m able to do less and less.  Reading back on old blog entries, I can see my downward trajectory.  For a well person, a stress would be your car breaking down.  For a depressed person any of the following will do:

  • Getting out of bed
  • Putting on clothes
  • Doing laundry so you have clothes to put on
  • After that shower you haven’t taken
  • Brushing and flossing your teeth
  • Putting on makeup – sorry I made myself laugh there
  • Getting your hair cut – I am now Rapunzel
  • Taking your children to school in traffic
  • Walking into work.  And the day has just started.

I should probably look into that haircut.

People who are well have a hard time understanding this.  Depressed people don’t understand it either, because often there is a disconnect between what part of your brain knows you should be able to do, and what the other part is willing to let you do.  This disease does not exist in a vacuum – it exists in an ever winding circle involving illnesses both mental and physical.  IBS, Asthma, auto-immune diseases, chronic pain, and even the heart disease that is winning the disability race all wind round and round.  Did the depression cause the illness, or did the illness cause the depression, or both?  Where does it start and where does it end?

I’ve always dealt with respiratory illnesses due to being allergic to all of creation.  But in 2012, I came down with a serious case of pneumonia.  This wasn’t your walking, take a pill, back in a few days kind of pneumonia.  By the time doctors put their tiny heads together and figured it out a week after symptoms started – a chest x-ray!  What a wild idea!  – the pneumonia had spread over my entire right lung.  It was a miserable experience.  If you want to hear about it with cartoons and jokes, just look up “pneumonia”  in the search box.  Anyway, I missed over a month of work, and even after I returned it took a couple more months to fully recover.  I never recovered my sick or vacation leave at work.  From that point on, I was always running behind, making up time for being sick or going to appointments because I could never keep any leave.  I almost never have a week with no absence.  For the last five years I have wondered when they would fire me.  At times, I hoped they would, because I was just so tired.

Pneumonia.  Surprisingly not fun.

The depression came next.  I’d been fairly well for the last several years on the meds I was on.  Yet each major stress would cause a pill combination to fail.  It didn’t help that my shrink was a psychotic idiot.  I thought I had no other choice because I lived in a small city.  He gave me meds, then if they didn’t work, he yanked them and threw others at me.  Often there was no way to know what, if any, of my new meds were working and which were not.  All these medications have side effects.  One, Abilify, made me feel great for about a month before I was taken off of it for a 10 pound weight gain.  I would be put on it another time at a lower dose, only to be taken off it once more after a few months because I was climbing the walls.  I also developed a tendency to shop online which, along with gambling and other risk taking, is another possible fun side effect.

By the time I finally found another psychiatrist, I had been hospitalized three times.  I fully believe that people should go to the hospital if they are suicidal or even just so desperate they can no longer cope.  But after the first visit at my hospital, the other two were lousy experiences.  I have a couple of these stories on the blog as well.  However, the one good thing about the hospital was that you did not have to cope with the outside.  They gave you meals. They gave you pills.  You went to group.  The other people could be kind of scary, yet you still felt a belonging with them.  And while you wanted to leave, it was hard to return to the outside.

Psychiatric Hosptial Revolving Door

My new shrink is not perfect, but at least he looks me in the eye and seems to care.  I encourage everyone, if possible, to shop for a good shrink.  This guy is messing with your brain and body.  It’s good to trust him if at all possible.  No, most shrinks are not going to have long talks with you.  They prescribe medicine because they have big brains filled with knowledge that does not always include common sense.  Common sense is for counselors.  Don’t be afraid to try talk therapy if you can, because it can be very helpful.  Some people are able to get by with it alone.  Some use it and medication.  But for some, both of these stop helping after a while.  I found myself on a cycle of new pills, everything okay, new stress, pills fail, rinse repeat.  Finally my doctor suggested ECT.

I know I haven’t discussed much about the actual ECT, but I plan to in the next posts.  My history is important though, because all of this weighed into my decision to try this treatment.  It is my hope to detail the process of getting ECT (it is NOT easy) and then the actual ECT itself.  Since I am told I will lose memory, I figure I should write down what I can when I can.  My hope is to help other people who are faced with such a decision with information and not just fear mongering.  ECT could fail.  I could be worse off than before, but then again, I could be better.  My family deserves for me to try this.  I deserve to try this.  I don’t want to spend a life in misery, and I’m willing to try whatever it takes.

I will officially start ECT on June 5th.

So here goes.  Geronimo.

 

~Alice

United Airlines Kills the Easter Bunny

Hide yo kids! Hide yo bunnies!  United is at it again.  I mean first they kicked tween girls off a plane for wearing inappropriate leggings (what else do these girls wear?), then they bashed the head of that kindly old doctor and dragged him off the plane, but now they have gone too far.  They killed a giant bunny.  A giant bunny bred by a former playboy bunny, who had surgery to look like Jessica Rabbit.

Here comes PETER FREAKING COTTONTAIL.

No, I’m not making any of this up.  This has to be the best news day of all time.

Er, um, except for the bunny.  RIP Simon.

When they say “giant bunny” they aren’t kidding here.  This rabbit weighed 33 pounds and was 3 feet long.  News sources say “That was one big freaking rabbit.”   It doesn’t help that United has the worst record again this year for animal deaths, including eight dogs and a little baby kitten.  (Have you no shame, United?) But the real stories come from the following dear friends of the giant rabbit, who express their condolences.

“Simon was a little weird, always hiding those eggs every year “for Jesus”, as he said, but he was a great guy.  I think the pilot must have been Mr. McGregor.” – Peter Rabbit.

“No one had a bad word for Simon.  He was just so real, ya know.  And huge.” – The Velveteen Rabbit

“Roger thinks this is a really messed up deal for Simon.  And he’s married to me.” – Jessica Rabbit

“Even the Mad Hatter won’t ride United now.  Oh, crap, I’m late for my flight!” – The White Rabbit

“Yeah, that’s all folks,” – Bugs Bunny

No one knows how to break the news to the kids.  What are they going to do without all those eggs and giant chocolate bunnies and, bizarrely, giant chocolate crosses?  Hyperglycemia does not cause itself.  One thing is for sure – I am not flying United Airlines anytime soon. Because you know they’re probably going to start shoving overbooked passengers, or doctors, or tweens (you know some people would cheer for this) into the cargo holds next, and even Simon didn’t make it out of that alive.   But don’t worry, United is “deeply saddened” by this, just like they were about the incident with the doctor.  I mean after first ignoring it, then smearing his name through the mud, then, after stocks plummeted, finally “apologizing” with all the sincerity of a politician.  They also plan to address this issue with their wronged party.  By Ouija board apparently.

Luckily all the news outlets are on this case.

“Now United’s Killing Fluffy Bunnies!” – The Daily Mail.

“United Airlines Investigates Giant Bunny Death” – Wazobia Journal

“World’s Biggest Rabbit Dies in Mysterious Circumstances on Flight in New PR Disaster United Airlines” – The Sun

I’m not sure what the weirdest thing about this case is – that there can be as much outcry over a bunny death as there is over a human getting beaten and dragged from a flight or that there is a bunny that is 33 POUNDS.  One things is for sure – bunnies get peoples’ attention.  Your raving reporter Alice promises to keep a close eye on any developing news.  What do you think will happen next with United?  What kind of settlement will Jessica Rabbit get?  What about the children?  Let me know in the comments below.

~Alice

Cover Songs or post I stole from another blogger!

Okay, so I haven’t been writing lately cause of the bloody pony and squirrel.  If you’re new, you may not have been introduced.  First there is Sad Pony.  He might look like a picture, but he’s very real.  He enjoys sitting on me and acting sarcastic to hide his deep, dark pain.

Deep dark pain.  Check it.

Next up is Squirrel.  He is also not just a picture, but a real anxiety attack in fuzzy form.

Oh woooowwww omg you haven’t used me in forever I’m here I’m still here what are you doing will you do something now omg I think the world is gonna end better take hold of my nuts wait did that sound bad hey where are you going?

So right, as Merbear, whose post I just stole, said, music can help tame these bad boys here, at least for a little while.  At the moment I am looking into new treatments for them because they’re cute and all but I want them kept at bay.  I want an actual life.  When you can look at your blog posts, giggle a little cause gosh you’re funny, but then realize that crap, you’ve sort of gone downhill over the years, it’s time to do something.  Anything.  But before I take up drunk hunting, I figured I’d try to write a few posts.  Just to say I did.  And why music?  Cause I can’t think of anything else right now!  Awesome!

So I had a record player when I was really little.  It was a Winnie the Pooh record player.  And I played it quite a bit.  I also used the record player in the living room.  Sometimes you had to put one of those little circular things inside the single disks, cause they had a bigger hole.  I don’t know why they had a bigger hole, they just did.  Also you had to play them on a higher speed.  This was also a fun thing to do to regular records, so they would song like Chipmunks.  Where was I?  Right, so I played records, like Ghostbusters.  I remember that one, especially on high speed.   Also “Bad Boys” by Miami Sound Machine now known as Gloria Estefan.  I am dating myself.  I’m a great date.

This brings back memories. I was so cool as a kid.

I also had cassette tapes (all you cute little millennials – google this stuff) and the first one I remember was Hall and Oates.  My brother gave it to me, because back then he gave me stuff he wanted.  Come to think of it, he still kind of does this.  I was around eight I think?  That was also when my parents gave me my first phone in my room (pink!), so they wouldn’t have to hear me yammer any longer.  My parents were progressive that way.   My brother and I both got Sony Walkmans, because my parents liked us also shutting up on trips.  I would often listen to my player, especially when I needed to cover up my father’s twang Country music.  I was pleased to find out that Thing Two was trying to drown out Hakuna Matata the other day while Thing One and I sang at the tops of our lungs.  Apparently Disney doesn’t go well with My Chemical Romance.  We felt sads about this – haha, no we didn’t.

I can remember thinking I was sooo much older listening to music.  I walked home one day and the speakers at the baseball field were playing Cyndi Lauper’s She-Bop and I danced and sang like the bad nine-year-old I was, having blissfully no idea what Cyndi was actually singing about (thank you Cracked for clearing up that mystery).  There are other songs that bring back memories of roller skating rinks (look it up) and amusement parks (ours was called Wonderland, for reals).  Now that I’m older, I listen to other music, but I still love the 80s.  They are the best.  I like some of today’s music – some of which I will embarrassingly admit to later, and the oldies too, though not as much as Merbear.  We still have this weird ability to finish songs the other one starts, no matter what the time or genre.  Sometimes we don’t both like a song and we have to take a breather and say, it’s okay, everyone has faults.  But mostly we enjoy the same stuff.  While there are songs that you love, there are also songs you hate with equal passion.  I’ll talk about that too, maybe.

For example, here is a song I hate. I HATE IT.

Music has a magical ability to change your mood. It doesn’t work on everyone – I had tone deaf English students.  I asked them how all different genres of music felt, what it made them think of, from classical to modern day, from fast to slow.  They said “your music sucks.”.  I was 22, they were at least 18.  I really don’t think four years should have made a difference.  But wow, it can.  For me, though, music is powerful.  I can feel my heart swell when I hear it, and my soul soar.  Like movies, music can take you places.  It can actually heal you, and slow down your anxiety (lots of youtube videos are good for this).  I even saw a video about this old man with Alzheimer’s who was non responsive – until they put headphones on him with his favorite music from his younger years.  He literally came alive.

So yeah, I think I’ll talk about music.  Here’s hoping, anyway.

~Alice